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Trend that kept me awake… #YesAllWomen

So just about to fall asleep and I do a last minute check of Twitter. European elections, more stuff on UKIP and then I stumble on #YesAllWomen It’s currently tending number with over 700,000 tweets from around the world! (At 3am in the UK)

It seems to have been started (well a catalyst at least) because of the terrible events in America where a 22 year old man decided to go on a killing rampage – after he was apparently shunned by some women http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-27562917

The news is extremely sad, with six people losing their lives to this one man’s twisted actions.

But what I find just as distressing are the vast numbers of tweets written by women sharing their experiences of misogyny, disrespect, rape and general sexist abuse. I don’t want to believe what I’m reading – but unfortunately some of the stories ring true for some of my friends and acquaintances…

Reading the continuous stream of tweets became almost overwhelming… Here are a few:
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Reading some of these frank accounts of misogyny experienced by women around the world, sometimes on a daily occurrence really upset me! Why do some men choose to behave like that?

Why do we continue to live in a world where some stupid men choose to treat women so poorly and without respect? Obviously questions that we could spend hours debating.

Bottom line – It’s really time the men out there became even more vocal about these abuses, however ‘minor’ some might appear. With society force feeding young men and women the idea that it’s ok to objectify and disrespect women more and more each day, it’s really up to us MEN to stand tall with our WOMEN and start teaching these young men that young women are just as equal and deserve our respect… As for the older generations of men, lets hope that they’re not beyond re-education. Refreshing to see that some men already get it:

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Guys if this trending topic doesn’t get you thinking about how you should be treating women, then try and remember this… We all have mothers!

#YesAllWomen

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Sharing…again

I’ve recently been asked to contribute to IdeasTapMag. I enjoy writing, but don’t always allow myself the time to indulge. Here’s my first piece for them:

http://www.ideastap.com/IdeasMag/all-articles/the-contributors-dekan-apajee-on-obsession-celebrity

If you enjoy, disagree or just want to add your opinion please do… or simply share it.. thanks

 

Everyone’s watched this today…

Whether you’re cringing at the sight, or simply enjoying the awkward first moments as these strangers kiss, you almost certainly can’t help watching this and reminiscing back to your own very first kiss – what a moment eh?

Hopefully your relationship will forever hold that moment close in both yours and your partners’ minds…

Failing a sporting generation…?

Saw this article today – Did London 2012 fail to inspire a generation?

http://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/olympics/25356001

Simple answer – no. But I think it failed to show the realistic side of sport and the costs and dedication involved!

It’s not just a case of turning up at your local track and getting a coach and a sponsorship deal.. There’s also lots of support required from sporting bodies and especially families.

If we really want more sporting participation I think there needs to be proper structured and accessible, (affordable) provisions… Obvious? Maybe….

Rant over.

I’m Just Saying…..

This is short and sweet – I’m forced to throw my 2 pence in the mix because the world just seems more than a little messed up right now. I’ll start small and relatively trivial, and work my way from there depending on the responses, but also whether or not I have better things to go and do….

So my first I’m Just Saying post (aka rant) is about this continuous barrage of kak music videos we’ve recently been subjected too. From the over-sexed Miley Cyrus’ Wrecking Ball, to Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines, Lily Allen’s Hard for a B***h and now Kayne West’s Bound 2. I’m not gonna get into the lyrics of each of these songs (if you can call them that), I just wanted to make a simple observation about the whole pants-ness of the videos!

http://youtu.be/BBAtAM7vtgc

Where is the story, where is the narrative – What’s happened to the magic of music videos?? The videos that you could talk about with friends or watch with family, without pretending to watch them put of the corner of your eye! Do we really need to see simulated sex scenes in every video? Could it be because most songs don’t talk about love and relationships anymore, but are quite happy to push meaningless sex onto everybody? (Sorry I said I’d leave lyrics for another time).

I’m not saying that some videos shouldn’t be provocative and even push a few boundaries, but do they ALL have to do it??? C’mon artists/producers/labels let’s take off that ‘sex sells’ record and put a new tune on……please!

Life after 2012

It’s a year since I experienced one of the greatest days of my life and performed at the London 2012 Ceremonies.

I vividly remember every detail, from the months and months of dance preparation to the first moment my fellow volunteers and myself walked into the stadium surrounded by a thousands of excited spectators!

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(My wonderful ceremonies costume lol)

The weeks of training culminated in just 15 minutes of performance time!

And boy what a performance – if I don’t say so myself 🙂

I never could have imagined that little old me would be dancing away in front of her Royal Highness, 007 and almost 2 billion TV viewers!

And after the performance there was the after-party! The least said about that the better, but from all accounts it was brilliant!! 🙂

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FFkqZhXkID0&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DFFkqZhXkID0

As for my working relationship with the London 2012 Games, I’d been living with them since the capital won the bid back in 2005. Working for BBC London, I facilitated the production of community stories for TV and radio, presented a series where I competed alongside olympic and paralympic athletes, managed online radio stations, gave a speech on the Olympic Spirit for TedXYouth and also managed a directing credit alongside legend, Jon Plowman on BBC’s comedy series, Twenty Twelve – so all in all a pretty amazing seven years!

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(That’s me preparing for my TedXYouth speech)

So 12 months on and and what now? Well for me I bid farewell to the BBC at the end of last year after 10 years of what I consider a good career! After some much needed time away, I’m finally ready to move forward and carve out a new career (hopefully in the media) Any offers of work will now be looked on seriously 😉

As for east London, it’s been difficult to see where exactly the Games have really made a significant impact. Yes there’s a stadium and new Queen Elisabeth park, but neither is open to the public yet. (Just over six hours to go when writing this) Westfield’s Stratford city shopping centre seems to be the only clear winner at the moment.

Yes we’ve had the odd festival in the park, but they really could have been anywhere…

Housing is one of the legacy (not sure I still like that word) plans that I think everyone is eagerly anticipating, but from the little news that’s been released into the public domain it would appear that any benefits for working Londoners is some way off!

http://m.guardian.co.uk/artanddesign/2013/jul/21/london-2012-olympics-architecture-legacy

As for athletics, it was a great Games – both the Olympics and Paralympics truly inspired generations, but with news stories of funding cuts every other month, it’s hard to believe Team GB or Paralympics GB will have a similar medal haul in any future Games without a reconsideration of how grass root and elite sport is funded. But we wait and see.

I’m just touching on a few of the issues that are lingering about at the moment. No doubt that these will all be forgotten as we relive the glory this weekend with the British Athletics Sainsbury’s Anniversary Games. I guess the real future can wait for two more days as we enjoy the likes of Usain Bolt and Jessica Ennis-Hill on our screens again!

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(Carrying the Ukrainian flag at the Paralympics closing ceremony)